How do you make your man/woman file for nullity from his/her current marriage, which is not you?

Im 25, he's 35.


I know this is stupid - i fell in love- but, it has been a year since i moved with my boyfriend, who is now 5yrs married to his wife and has a 3 yr-old son.


Its so obvious that he doesnt love his wife (its shows and he said so).


He's with me on working days, stays with his family on non-working days.


The first and last time we talked about it, all he said was he doesnt want to be the faulty and bad one.


And any annulment case would only lead him to not marrying again.





Any advice? explanation?


I cannot find help from any of my friends coz they all despise him and all they want to for me to move out of the apartment and find a new beginning.How do you make your man/woman file for nullity from his/her current marriage, which is not you?
okay, let's keep this simple.





YOU'RE THE OTHER WOMAN. You're not ever going to be the wife. NOT EVER. He doesn't love you or respect you. He just sleeps with you. That's it.





If you're really gullible enough to live with a married man, and expect him to be faithful TO YOU, that's one thing. But to expect him to give up half of his money and assets to get out of a marriage, when he gets to do you now for free? That's just being stupid. And even if this was a fairy tale and he did leave his wife for you. Guess what? He'd cheat on you, too! That's what cheaters do. They cheat. DUH!!!





Grow up. You don't deserve happiness when you're stealing a man from another family. Stop thinking what you're doing is okay, get out of this man's life and move on. Doing anything else is just being his whore. And a poorly paid one at that.





Good luck.How do you make your man/woman file for nullity from his/her current marriage, which is not you?
If he didn't want to be with his wife nor love her, they wouldn't be together. So don't fall for that lie. Don't u watch lifetime. Never try to pursue a relationship with a married man. Would you like to be a wife with a cheating husband. You can't trust him. It's obvious he's a liar he is cheating. Don't come back on here asking how to get over a heartache when he decides to stop cheating on his wife. And go back home to her. Ooops he already does that.
Open your eyes sweetie. If he is doing this to her, what makes you think he won't do it to you? What comes around goes around. I think your friends are right. Sometimes you have to listen to your brain and not your heart because your heart will get you into trouble. If he didn't love his wife, he wouldn't go back home to her on the non-working days. You don't know why they have that set up the way they do. He is more than likely, leading you on. You need to just walk away, because he isn't going to divorce her anytime soon.
in simple words you are being had and that is fine as long as you know that. yepper, you are being used. what part of this dont' you understand hes got his cake and eat it to. yep his wife is there also
Honey he doesn't want to leave his family for you even if he doesn't love her she is his wife and he has a life with her. He is leading you on and you can either sit back and be happy to be the mistress second best to his wife or you can leave.
there is a good reason they despise him. he's married and with you. that's just wrong. he's taking you for a ride. i think you know it. you can't make him divorce his wife. he isn't going to. get out while the gettin's good and find someone who isn't married.
He is the bad one,he has 2 familys.what he is doing is wrong to his wife,son and you.If he wanted to really leave his wife he would have already divorced her.It cannot be anulled because it has been 5yrs.
What kind of idiot are you? Why would you move in with a guy who is still married, and has no intention of leaving his wife? Of course he tells you he doesn't love her. His whole life is a lie, but you choose to believe that one. Have some self respect. Move out, and find someone who is available.
He's got the wool pulled over your eyes.
ok, all your friends hate him, and everyone who has answered this question hates him too. do you think that you're the only one who sees the truth here? i find that when everyone in my life is telling me the same thing, i need to stand up and listen. i found this out only after i almost married a TOTAL jerk. if i had just listened to them, things would have gone so much easier for me.


having said that, it's absolutely CLASSIC for a man having an affair to say that he doesn't love his wife. they ALL do it. i really hope that you find the courage and self-esteem to get away from a man who is obviously using you.
Like they say why buy the cow when you can


get the milk for free..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
you are in for a bumpy ride,, that man isnt gonna divorce his wife for you.. so you can forget all the promises he made..and an anullment cant stop him from being remarried..he is not planning on marrying you girl.. wake up and smell the coffee...
Why do young women sell themselves so short. Is it low self esteem? Did your daddy not show you enough love?





Do you think it is ok to be his lover? His wife probably doesn't know you exist. Call her - find out if she knows about you. I am sure on the weekend he isn't sleeping with his wife-Right? Because it's you he loves.





You are a home-wrecker. You need help. Listen to your friends and family. They want what is best for you.


The mirror must be tough on you.
TAKE YOUR FRIENDS ADVICE...MEN DONT LEAVE THEIR WIFE FOR ANOTHER WOMAN. POINT BLANK.
Your friends despise him for a reason. he's having his cake and eating it too, and you're the cake. You deserve to have someone all to yourself and he doesn't seem to be willing to do that. You can't MAKE somebody divorce somebody. You just can't. The only thing you can do is leave. One of two things will happen, he'll come chasing after you and finally follow thru with a divorce, or he WON'T and you'll know that he never intended to.
Leave him! He is taking advantage of you, and no good can come of this relationship. If he had any respect for you, he would be only with you, and not living this double life. If he leaves his wife to be with you, how do you know he won't do the same thing to you?
Looks like his behavior in this relationship with you is not going to go anywhere. You need to face this situation for what it is. bettyk
It hurts me beyond belief that you believe him.


Let's take this step by step.





1) You know this is stupid (you said that, not me.)


2) You fell in love a year ago with a guy who has been married 5 yrs and has a 3 yr-old son


3) It's obvious he doesn't love his wife....





ok, here's where it gets goofy...





4) he stays with you on working days


and


5) stays with her on non-working days.





Could that possibly be ';weekends?';





6) He is having an affair with you, he is married and has a child but he doesn't want to be the ';faulty'; (bad) guy.


Humph.


7) He has conveniently ruled out annulment because for whatever reason he would not marry again (that pretty much excludes you, right?)





So after all of the above, you want advice.





8) In fact, on top of all of this, your friends despise him.





OMG.





and your question was,


How do u make your man/woman file for nullity from his/her current marriage, which is not you?





I am not going to humor or patronize you. I truly and sincerely and honestly believe you know the answer. I really do.





I just told you what you told me.





If I just told you what you just told me, but it was me, what would YOU say?





I wish you luck. I think you are stuck. You believe this guy and he is so, so, so using you. But for whatever reason honey, you just don't see it.
Listen to your friends because I'm sure they care about you. A man that has a wife and a girlfriend who is 10 years younger than him must have a very big ego and is playing you for a fool. Get rid of him!!!!!
My M-I-L is in the same situation. They both promised to divorce other people. My mil divorced 3yrs ago, the guy is still married. He still does family functions. He says it for the kids. His kids are 30. Anyway, these men are jokers. You can't make them file.
Nullity=annulment. There are very few grounds for annulment (and they are very specific), so he probably wouldn鈥檛 qualify for it, even if he wanted to file.





But, don鈥檛 expect him to file for divorce either. Married men always tell their lovers that they don鈥檛 love their wives, and yet鈥hey stay with them.





He鈥檚 using you, and you鈥檙e allowing him to do it.
take your friends advice.


and slap him on my behalf will you, thanks.
sounds like he has the best of both worlds - he needs to choose - what a horrible situation to be in - Sorry, but you are just allowing this behaviour by staying with him.
You have chosen a very hard path. You are the other woman. All cheating husbands tell their mistress that they don't love their wives but are staying for the children or some other excuse. He is making it pretty clear that he won't be marrying you ever. He says if he did end his marriage he wouldn't remarry ever.





This guy is having his cake and eating it too. He is married and enjoys the benefits of a married man and believe me that includes sex with her. And he gets to have a little something on the side with you too. How perfect for him.





Wise up before you are 40 and still hoping this jerk will marry you. If you want kids and a husband of your own, stop dating married guys and make yourself available to single ones.





Dump him and move on. Your friends are right.





Good luck.
He's wrong in what he is doing but you are just as guilty in all of this. You know what's going on and you continue to go along with it. How do you think his wife feels? I say this because I've been in this situation and it's a horrible feeling when you find out that your relationship is all a lie. Luckily I found out a month before my wedding.
Rather you want to believe it or not if he is cheating on his wife now he will cheat on you to. By the way he is not your man he is married . Not only has he sinned but so have you.
Do you know that if he is cheating on his WIFE he will cheat on you !! A cheating husband will tell you anything you want to hear. Your so beautiful, I can't live without you!! I don't love my wife I only love you!!! What would I do without you!! Your to good to me!!! I love you so much!! Sound familiar !! I bet he has said all of these and more!! But he still goes home to his wife.
he is getting the best of both worlds why would he leave that ?? he is playing you ,,, stop being a stupid little girl and grow up..... leave him cause he won't leave her,,,,,, also.. what about his son,,, ever think about him????
Number one , u r not stupid. But this is how it is..he is lying just to placate you. He is too much of a coward to end his marriage. If he really loved you he would have done it. Instead , he wants to have the best of both worlds, and in the real world it cannot be this way. Your friends are only looking out for you they mean no harm....they care! It hurts them to see that he is using you. There are plenty of other guys out there who will love you and only you. Please consider the fact that he has a child, and in the end it's the children who suffer most, sure the child may be young...but they can sense things. Don't cheat yourself, by living a lie. Honestly, it will take time to get over him..but to get rid of him is the best choice. If he is lying to you now, do u always want to have to wonder and worry? Think about that. Good luck to u, be the bigger person and do the right thing.
your very naive, does his wife even know about you? think about it your staying in an apartment with him and on his days off from work he is going to spend time with his wife and kids and you sit there and wait for him!


go find yourself someone who will be there 100% of the time.