Ladies we are guys, and we have girls that are friends. And let me tell you, I dont know any single guys who havent slept with their girl friends, or have a huge crush on one of their girl friends. I just think its amazing how women can hate on their boyfriends for not liking the idea of their girlfriends having guy friends, when we are guys. I mean I'm going to give you an example, if you were standing looking at tampons and a guy talked about it and acted as if he knew more about tampons then you do, you'd laugh in his face. Same thing happens when a girl tells a guy that her guy friends dont want anything from them. WE'RE GUYS, we know a lot more about how guys think then girls do.
Now to answer the response that ALL women are going to try and use, because lets face it, this response is your only defense in this situation really. TRUST. Ok so if you LOVE someone does that mean that you have to trust them, otherwise its not love? The fact is Trust and Love are 2 different things, so please dont use that high school response of ';Oh if he doesnt trust her then he doesnt love her'; because thats the response that women who have plenty of guy friends decided to start using a long time ago, to justify having male friends and making it so the boyfriend would feel inclined to just bite the bullet rather then express how he really feels. So here is the truth of the matter, if you are doing something that you know makes your boyfriend uncomfortable, then its YOU who are at fault. Because the idea of a relationship is that you and your partner are comfortable with each other, and if you do something that makes your partner uncomfortable then you are not a very good partner, since you know it bothers them. Love is free, Trust is EARNED.
(I know I'm gonna get a LOT of hate answers, but I really dont care lol go ahead and leave a bunch of angry answers so I can laugh a little tonight =)Question To Women About Their Guy Friends (Men answer to plz)?
And this would be the reason why I added you to my contacts. I'm going to probably be one of the few females who commend you on this question/statement. To show how I appreciate your honest, here's a little of the same token from me.
You're absolutely right, women use trust as an excuse to sort of gain the upper hand in the argument of relationships. Especially since most women won't expect guys to simmer on the thought of the statement they have just made. The fact of the matter is, a lot of women refuse to believe that their guy friends have other intentions outside of just being their friend. So I'll answer with another question to you, where does the greater burden of distrust lie? Is it toward the guy friend or toward your partner? Fact of the matter is, you're feeling a little uneasy about both.
Trust is earned, you're right, and love is free. You can love someone for all the qualities that they have, and they can be this amazing person, but then there's that one little habit of ';she's always flirting'; or ';she's too friendly';, so you keep a little caution flag in the back of your mind.
Back to your question. It's a difference of perception. When we hang out with our guy friends, we know that in the back of our heads, we won't let anything happen that would damage our relationship (that is, if we are of those very loyal and faithful women rather than the ones who give in to temptation). But when we see our boyfriend with another female friend, we believe that because men are a little bit more impulsive to act on their ';feelings'; or ';temptations'; he may be able to get what he wants easier than a girl can.
I guess you can say women give themselves more credit in the relationship and give men so little credit. And we wonder why nowadays young men are reluctant to take that step....Question To Women About Their Guy Friends (Men answer to plz)?
Thank you for selecting my answer, but even more, thanks for putting up this question. I really enjoyed reading it and it was an eye opener
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it wouldnt let me email you so im writing on here - awe thanks for the compliment%26lt;3
dude you are so f'n right i've been trying to come up with a perfect example for it and here it is.
Jealous much? Some guys ACTUALLY do hang out with girls just cause they like to be around them and enjoy their company, not just because they are hot. I know hard to believe, but it happens...and quit cock blockin the other guy friends man, share your chick =)
P.S. I like to stick my thumb up my bum while I listen to old Chubby Checker records. Get a laugh off that visual.
Alright, ill give you that trust bit. but seriously, if you love us, then can you at least TRY to trust us not to sleep with anyone if you know we love you too? and i think the reason we mind it when men have friends that are girls (not that i do, but most women in general) is because i think women are a lot more likely to do something about the guy that they like, even if they are taken, than men are with women, or is that a wrong assumption?
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